Antibiotics Won't Cure This VD

Dear Stella-
I'm a single gal and Valentine's Day was so hard for me.  Yesterday, my social media feeds were filled with posts of flowers, candies, love, and none of it was for me!  I thought about buying myself some flowers and a card, but I shouldn't have to when everyone else gets presents and attention from their SOs.  It's killing me!  How can I survive this holiday in the future, if God forbid, I am single next year?
- Left Out in Louisiana

Dear LOL-

I am sorry you're dying because you've been reminded on one day that a number of your friends are in relationships.  There are so many diseases to die from, being an envious, self-absorbed, sad-sack is definitely one of the worst.

Let me guess, if you are not a mother of a human baby, on Mother's Day, you post pictures of your "fur baby" and/or houseplant?  I know for sure that on Father's Day you mention that you're filling the role of father to that kitty/pupper and/or dieffenbachia.  Perhaps on Veteran's Day, you mention that you're a veteran against the war on mites on said-dieffenbachia?  Please tell me you celebrate Christmas, Hanukkah, AND Kwanza.  What days are Eid Al-Fitr and Eid Al-Adha again?  You must know because apparently you celebrate EVERY flipping holiday on the calendar.

If you don't do the work, you don't get to celebrate the day.  If you don't have a human baby that you have raised in some way, spending ridiculous amounts of tears, love, stress-hormones on, you don't get a card on Mother's Day or a new bbq set on Father's Day.  If you didn't take an oath to defend the Constitution from all enemies, you don't get to go get the free breakfast at Denny's on Veteran's Day.  If you're not doing the work in a relationship, listening to someone snore, picking up dirty socks on the floor, why should you get the perks on Valentine's Day? (Maybe you just want a man to kill a dog and beat you with its hide? Read a fun article from NPR about the origin of Valentine's Day here. *gag*)

I have a very important message that might help:  Everything doesn't have to be about you.  Maybe make it a mantra and paste it on your mirror:  "The world doesn't revolve around me."  (Put some hearts and rainbows on it to make it more cheerful.)

It is very confusing to me why people choose to use other's happiness to wallow in self-pity.  Stop comparing.  Stop looking at what you don't have.  Stop making up stupid rules for yourself that you need to be involved with every "special day" on the calendar.

Maybe next year, if some lucky man hasn't made you his sun, moon and stars, you can get up on Valentine's Day, put on your comfy bra and panties (because no one will be looking at them), eat your breakfast you make for yourself, and go on about your day.  If you want to do something extra special, you comment on your friend's posts, "You're so lucky!  I'm so glad you found such a generous guy/gal!" and spread a bit of love that way.  Then, on Friendship Day, August 4th, your friends will be happy to celebrate with you because you did the work.

-Stella

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